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Ok to start this topic off, I would like to state that I've been out of a relationship for eight months, had some benefits going on but I cut that off. Now, say you meet this chick, she likes you, you like her. The only problem is, you see her telling other guys that she doesn't want a boyfriend at the moment, because her ex was a lousy, piece of shit that left her after she had a kid. You buy her breakfast every now and then, you buy her some smokes, food, crap that she's unable to get due to her financial situation.

Now, my dilemma is, I'm not sure what I should do. Should I keep this up? Should I send her flowers for no reason, should I continue playing the friend role until I die? Should I even be posting this on Quake3World Forums? What would you do? ....if you're a decent person.
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Post by Dave »

Advice? Dont be a pussy. The answer to all life's problems
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Post by Zerofactor »

That doesn't really help too much, let's say I go ahead and do a whole bunch of great things, it could just blow right up in my face. You like shit exploding in your face?! :p
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Post by Dave »

You don't like taking chances, do you? hence 'don't be a pussy'
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Fuck, I take chances! I post pictures of myself holding swords and guns on an internet forum!
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Post by Dave »

You lead a sad life
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Post by S@M »

just supposing you could talk with her.....hmmmm the possibilities :p
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Post by MKJ »

she says her previous boyfriend was a lousy bum. prove to her that not all guys are like that

and ditch the kid
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Post by Zerofactor »

I've been spending time proving, but I think if I really want to be with her, I need to show her that I can deal with the kid ;)
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Post by busetibi »

so how long you have you been her 'friend' for?
of course you do realise if you keep it up for a couple of months, then you could cement the relationship as just 'friends' or she could start seeing you as more than a friend, tis a fine line youre walking,maybe back off a little (seeing as you dont say how much time your spending/how often you see her) and see if she makes the forward moves,
and no, i wouldnt post this sort of thing on a forum, id sort it out by myself,
life is after all, trial and error.
gl.
edit: hies s@m ;)
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Post by MKJ »

;) maybe hint at her that yer interested, just to get a feel what she thinks.
that way, if shes not interested, you can at least keep hanging out with her

and sniff her panties when she's not looking
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Post by Ryoki »

I think the best course of action at this point in your relationship with this woman is to take Dave's advice.
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Post by Zerofactor »

MKJ wrote:
and sniff her panties when she's not looking
:lol:

I've been 'friending' with her for about 4 weeks now. But I also know her from about 3 years ago at the first job I ever had. How often do I see her? Every night, I work with her. I'm wondering what will happen when I get together with her, my other friend from work and his g/f at their house to smoke a little cheeba. (bout a week from now)
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Post by Eraser »

She has a kid that isn't yours and no money.
Not a very good catch if you ask me.....
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Eraser wrote:She has a kid that isn't yours and no money.
Not a very good catch if you ask me.....
Especially if you work with her.. Don't shit where you eat..
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Post by Zerofactor »

Well I like her, isn't that a good enough reason to go out with someone? :confused:
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Post by losCHUNK »

sounds like shes taking you for a ride tbh

she knows you like her but shes getting to many freebies outta it

my advice is... tell her straight or just cut her off :shrug:
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Post by seremtan »

well, since you come across as the kind of guy who'd post picture of himself with fake guns on the internet, i'd say have at it otherwise you may never get laid
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Post by Zerofactor »

seremtan wrote:well, since you come across as the kind of guy who'd post picture of himself with fake guns on the internet, i'd say have at it otherwise you may never get laid
heh, you might've missed the first sentence or two in my first post. but that's ok.
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Zerofactor wrote:Ok to start this topic off, I would like to state that I've been out of a relationship for eight months, had some benefits going on but I cut that off. Now, say you meet this chick, she likes you, you like her. The only problem is, you see her telling other guys that she doesn't want a boyfriend at the moment, because her ex was a lousy, piece of shit that left her after she had a kid. You buy her breakfast every now and then, you buy her some smokes, food, crap that she's unable to get due to her financial situation.

Now, my dilemma is, I'm not sure what I should do. Should I keep this up? Should I send her flowers for no reason, should I continue playing the friend role until I die? Should I even be posting this on Quake3World Forums? What would you do? ....if you're a decent person.
Uncanny, you just explained exactly what I've gone through the last few months. I only just realised it'll never work.
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Post by Duhard »

You should ask her if she's interested in a long term relationship (if that's what you want) and if she's not, dump the fucking bitch cause she's obviously with you just because you pay her stuff.

I've known quite a few attention whores like that and if you do love her, tell her and ask her if she has the same feelings towards you.

Like I said, most chicks just want the money until they find another wallet.
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Post by dzjepp »

So fucking true nigga
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Post by bork[e] »

Better be careful with this child situation, if the kid gets attached to you and views you as the father figure............... well, you get the idea.

And fuck you Blowhard.
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bork[e] wrote:And fuck you Blowhard.
I used to fuck girls like your dad in prison, kid.
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Advice: Don't date poor people if you aren't.
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