Advice

Post by **bork[e]** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 3:30 pm

Duhard wrote:
bork[e] wrote:And fuck you Blowhard.
I used to fuck girls like your dad in prison, kid.

Still on that old chest nut? Meh.

Post by **Don Carlos** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 3:35 pm

losCHUNK wrote:sounds like shes taking you for a ride tbh

she knows you like her but shes getting to many freebies outta it

my advice is... tell her straight or just cut her off

w3rd

Post by **Tormentius** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:09 pm

riddla wrote:Chicks with kids are double trouble, if/when you lose her you lose any bond between you and the kid. You're young, find a young single woman. I speak from experience.

Exactly. If you leave her after the child has become attached to you, then you've also contributed to (further?) emotionally damaging the child. It sounds like shes got some baggage of her own that you might not want to get tangled up in either. You also work with this broad which means if it ends with you two then you've still got to see her at work and things will be odd and/or tense.

Post by **Zerofactor** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:11 pm

How would it be odd and/or tense? confused...

Post by **Duhard** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:13 pm

Just stay friends with her and continue to spend some time with her but just don't get too serious with that relationship cause you've got everything to lose if things turn sour :icon14:

Post by **equivo** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:17 pm

Well if you break up but you continue working with her, it could be a little awkward couldn't it.

Post by **Zerofactor** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:20 pm

Post by **Tsakali** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:29 pm

first off I don't know shit
second, figure out what you want from her.. rreal relationship, sex relationship, or simply some ass. Now if you want a serious relationship, I'd advise against it due to the child situation, but other than that make sure she feels the same way and just have some fun with her, and avoid spending time with the child, try to ignore it's significance, if she doesn't like it and is not capable of just dating you for you, then blow her off.

Women with children are 80% of the time out looking for a replacement father putting asside almost every need she has or desire, it's all about the kid at this point(with most single mothers) so treat this situation accordingly.

Actually on second thaught, you'd be wise to just ease out....

Post by **Zerofactor** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:33 pm

Well if I do 'ease out', I guess it's back to the drawing board. :icon8:

Post by **raw** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:40 pm

Zerofactor wrote:Ok to start this topic off, I would like to state that I've been out of a relationship for eight months, had some benefits going on but I cut that off. Now, say you meet this chick, she likes you, you like her. The only problem is, you see her telling other guys that she doesn't want a boyfriend at the moment, because her ex was a lousy, piece of shit that left her after she had a kid. You buy her breakfast every now and then, you buy her some smokes, food, crap that she's unable to get due to her financial situation.

Now, my dilemma is, I'm not sure what I should do. Should I keep this up? Should I send her flowers for no reason, should I continue playing the friend role until I die? Should I even be posting this on Quake3World Forums? What would you do? ....if you're a decent person.

My advice...dump the needy cunt. If you fell flat on your face, she wouldn't do it for you. So fuck that slut, she made her bed, let her lay in it.

Post by **Tormentius** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:44 pm

Zerofactor wrote:How would it be odd and/or tense? confused...

:icon27:

Tell me you aren't really naieve enough to need this spelled out for you.

Post by **Zerofactor** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:48 pm

Ok, so let's say I go out with her. We're working together. What's weird about that? Now if we would break up, then yes, that'd be weird.

Post by **raw** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:49 pm

Lesson 1 in life. NEVER date a co-worker.

Post by **Grudge** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:49 pm

I'd stay the fuck away. That kind of relationship is not good for anyone.

Post by **raw** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:50 pm

I'm not trying to troll here (alright, maybe a little) but you seem quite hard up to be with someone to go through all of this...Don't you have any self-respect? FFS man!

Post by **Zerofactor** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:53 pm

Well, it's not really every day I actually meet someone I'm interested in.

Post by **raw** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:56 pm

Sounds like you're interested because you know she is in return. Playing it safe like that is only going to get you used.

Post by **werldhed** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:56 pm

Aren't you also trying to figure out if you can afford your own place? Keep in mind that relationships can get expensive, and a girl with a kid is only more so. The fact that it's a coworker makes it doubly bad. It's like the two most dreaded relationship situations at once.
I know I don't know anything about what this girl is like, but common sense says I'll have to echo the opinions of most of the rest: it's not a good idea.

Post by **Zerofactor** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 4:59 pm

Well then this leaves me with an obvious decision. BEER!

Post by **Tsakali** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 5:04 pm

I know when sex is not so readily available it kinda overules anything else at that point but to be honnest, some ass is not worth the trouble in the future

Post by **raw** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 5:05 pm

Ass is a dime a dozen, all it takes is a little finesse and you can bang anything you want. Men can manipulate women just as easily as they can us. It's about not letting them manipulate you and unfortunately it IS a big game.

Post by **raw** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 5:06 pm

Post by **ppp** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 5:52 pm

Avoid any serious involvement with this female - that's an order!

I'll tell you something else as well, she knows exactly what you think of her right now and you my man are her supersub, her fall-back-on guy, her best-bet-at-the-moment.

Understand, this female is in survival mode and you can't blame her really. She is poor and has to take care of someone else i.e. has a bleak future and must have a really bad shoe collection (girls luuuuurve shoes).

Being in survival mode she is currently looking for the wealthiest man she can find (looks/age are unimportant to her), to turn on her womanly charms towards and nab him for herself (she will deny this).

Seems like you are all she has right now (no offence) and I promise if you were 'the one' for her, she'd be all over you like a rash and planning a wedding.

My advice, start to act 'indifferent' towards her - she will notice she is 'loosing you' and turn on a tiny bit of charm to keep you strung along because you are useful.

Now this part is important, 'use that opportunity' to jump-her-bones-till-yer-eyes-bleed just so you can do this chick and get her outta your system. After that move on, nothing to see here. If she turns down the offer of 'free large sausage' then you at least know where you stand and she was indeed seeing you as a cash dispenser.

Play the game and play it good, you're young and horny and you seem to have been caught in the spell of just one of these female personages, this is not good, bad doggy, snap out of it and look around - there are LOADS of others to play with.

Good luck

p.s. I wish I was around to tell me this when I was going through the same thing...

Post by **Deathshroud** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 6:03 pm

Dave wrote:Advice? Dont be a pussy. The answer to all life's problems

This man is wise.

I would also like to add, get some.

Don't be a pussy, get some.

Post by **+JuggerNaut+** » Wed Aug 03, 2005 6:15 pm

Zerofactor wrote:I've been spending time proving, but I think if I really want to be with her, I need to show her that I can deal with the kid

is this the same guy?

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