let me start off by saying I've done searches through this board, and read most if not all of the articles posted in the threads with similar questions. I still can't get things to work anyway heres the issue:
I am running a dedicated server on my laptop, heres the info from it:
Now I set it up on the "internet" option on my laptop, and I logged in on my pc (under the same wireless connection (IQ3 1.11 win-x86 Nov 29 1999
----- FS_Startup -----
Current search path:
c:\Q3Ademo/baseq3
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Running in restricted demo mode.
----- FS_Startup -----
Current search path:
c:\Q3Ademo\demoq3\pak0.pk3 (1387 files)
c:\Q3Ademo/demoq3
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execing default.cfg
execing q3config.cfg
couldn't exec autoexec.cfg
...detecting CPU, found Intel Pentium III
------- Input Initialization -------
Initializing DirectInput...
Couldn't set DI coop level
Falling back to Win32 mouse support...
Joystick is not active.
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----- Client Initialization -----
----- Initializing Renderer ----
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----- Client Initialization Complete -----
--- Common Initialization Complete ---
Winsock Initialized
Opening IP socket: localhost:27960
Hostname: DWYER-MAT
IP: 192.168.1.106
Working directory: c:\Q3Ademo
----- R_Init -----
Initializing OpenGL subsystem
...initializing QGL
...calling LoadLibrary( 'C:\WINDOWS\System32\opengl32.dll' ): succeeded
...setting mode 6: 1024 768 FS
...using desktop display depth of 32
...calling CDS: ok
...registered window class
...created window@0,0 (1024x768)
Initializing OpenGL driver
...getting DC: succeeded
...GLW_ChoosePFD( 32, 24, 0 )
...39 PFDs found
...hardware acceleration found
...PIXELFORMAT 3 selected
...creating GL context: succeeded
...making context current: succeeded
Initializing OpenGL extensions
...using GL_S3_s3tc
...using GL_EXT_texture_env_add
...using WGL_EXT_swap_control
...using GL_ARB_multitexture
...using GL_EXT_compiled_vertex_array
...WGL_3DFX_gamma_control not found
GL_VENDOR: ATI Technologies Inc.
GL_RENDERER: MOBILITY RADEON 9100 IGP DDR x86/SSE2
GL_VERSION: 1.3.3927 WinXP Release
GL_EXTENSIONS: GL_ARB_multitexture GL_EXT_texture_env_add GL_EXT_compiled_vertex_array GL_S3_s3tc GL_ARB_point_parameters GL_ARB_texture_border_clamp GL_ARB_texture_compression GL_ARB_texture_cube_map GL_ARB_texture_env_add GL_ARB_texture_env_combine GL_ARB_texture_env_crossbar GL_ARB_texture_env_dot3 GL_ARB_texture_mirrored_repeat GL_ARB_transpose_matrix GL_ARB_vertex_blend GL_ARB_vertex_program GL_ARB_window_pos GL_ATI_element_array GL_ATI_envmap_bumpmap GL_ATI_fragment_shader GL_ATI_texture_env_combine3 GL_ATI_texture_mirror_once GL_ATI_vertex_streams GL_ATIX_texture_env_combine3 GL_ATIX_texture_env_route GL_ATIX_vertex_shader_output_point_size GL_EXT_abgr GL_EXT_bgra GL_EXT_blend_color GL_EXT_blend_func_separate GL_EXT_blend_minmax GL_EXT_blend_subtract GL_EXT_clip_volume_hint GL_EXT_draw_range_elements GL_EXT_fog_coord GL_EXT_multi_draw_arrays GL_EXT_packed_pixels GL_EXT_point_parameters GL_EXT_rescale_normal GL_EXT_secondary_color GL_EXT_separate_specular_color GL_EXT_stencil_wrap GL_EXT_texgen_reflection GL_EXT_text
GL_MAX_TEXTURE_SIZE: 2048
GL_MAX_ACTIVE_TEXTURES_ARB: 6
PIXELFORMAT: color(32-bits) Z(24-bit) stencil(8-bits)
MODE: 6, 1024 x 768 fullscreen hz:60
GAMMA: hardware w/ 0 overbright bits
CPU: Intel Pentium III
rendering primitives: single glDrawElements
texturemode: GL_LINEAR_MIPMAP_NEAREST
picmip: 1
texture bits: 0
multitexture: enabled
compiled vertex arrays: enabled
texenv add: enabled
compressed textures: enabled
Initializing Shaders
...loading 'scripts/base.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_button.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_floor.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_light.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_object.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_support.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_trim.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_wall.shader'
...loading 'scripts/common.shader'
...loading 'scripts/ctf.shader'
...loading 'scripts/eerie.shader'
...loading 'scripts/gfx.shader'
...loading 'scripts/gothic_block.shader'
...loading 'scripts/gothic_floor.shader'
...loading 'scripts/gothic_light.shader'
...loading 'scripts/gothic_trim.shader'
...loading 'scripts/gothic_wall.shader'
...loading 'scripts/hell.shader'
...loading 'scripts/liquid.shader'
...loading 'scripts/menu.shader'
...loading 'scripts/models.shader'
...loading 'scripts/organics.shader'
...loading 'scripts/sfx.shader'
...loading 'scripts/shrine.shader'
...loading 'scripts/skin.shader'
...loading 'scripts/sky.shader'
...loading 'scripts/test.shader'
----- finished R_Init -----
------- sound initialization -------
Initializing DirectSound
locked hardware. ok
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----- Sound Info -----
sound system is muted
1 stereo
32768 samples
16 samplebits
1 submission_chunk
22050 speed
0x9828060 dma buffer
Forcing all sounds to 8 bit
No background file.
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Loading vm file vm/ui.qvm.
VM file ui compiled to 902363 bytes of code
4 arenas parsed
6 bots parsed
trFMV::play(), playing idlogo.RoQ
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ERROR: Disconnected from server
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RE_Shutdown( 0 )
----- R_Init -----
GL_VENDOR: ATI Technologies Inc.
GL_RENDERER: MOBILITY RADEON 9100 IGP DDR x86/SSE2
GL_VERSION: 1.3.3927 WinXP Release
GL_EXTENSIONS: GL_ARB_multitexture GL_EXT_texture_env_add GL_EXT_compiled_vertex_array GL_S3_s3tc GL_ARB_point_parameters GL_ARB_texture_border_clamp GL_ARB_texture_compression GL_ARB_texture_cube_map GL_ARB_texture_env_add GL_ARB_texture_env_combine GL_ARB_texture_env_crossbar GL_ARB_texture_env_dot3 GL_ARB_texture_mirrored_repeat GL_ARB_transpose_matrix GL_ARB_vertex_blend GL_ARB_vertex_program GL_ARB_window_pos GL_ATI_element_array GL_ATI_envmap_bumpmap GL_ATI_fragment_shader GL_ATI_texture_env_combine3 GL_ATI_texture_mirror_once GL_ATI_vertex_streams GL_ATIX_texture_env_combine3 GL_ATIX_texture_env_route GL_ATIX_vertex_shader_output_point_size GL_EXT_abgr GL_EXT_bgra GL_EXT_blend_color GL_EXT_blend_func_separate GL_EXT_blend_minmax GL_EXT_blend_subtract GL_EXT_clip_volume_hint GL_EXT_draw_range_elements GL_EXT_fog_coord GL_EXT_multi_draw_arrays GL_EXT_packed_pixels GL_EXT_point_parameters GL_EXT_rescale_normal GL_EXT_secondary_color GL_EXT_separate_specular_color GL_EXT_stencil_wrap GL_EXT_texgen_reflection GL_EXT_text
GL_MAX_TEXTURE_SIZE: 2048
GL_MAX_ACTIVE_TEXTURES_ARB: 6
PIXELFORMAT: color(32-bits) Z(24-bit) stencil(8-bits)
MODE: 6, 1024 x 768 fullscreen hz:60
GAMMA: hardware w/ 0 overbright bits
CPU: Intel Pentium III
rendering primitives: single glDrawElements
texturemode: GL_LINEAR_MIPMAP_NEAREST
picmip: 1
texture bits: 0
multitexture: enabled
compiled vertex arrays: enabled
texenv add: enabled
compressed textures: enabled
Initializing Shaders
...loading 'scripts/base.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_button.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_floor.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_light.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_object.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_support.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_trim.shader'
...loading 'scripts/base_wall.shader'
...loading 'scripts/common.shader'
...loading 'scripts/ctf.shader'
...loading 'scripts/eerie.shader'
...loading 'scripts/gfx.shader'
...loading 'scripts/gothic_block.shader'
...loading 'scripts/gothic_floor.shader'
...loading 'scripts/gothic_light.shader'
...loading 'scripts/gothic_trim.shader'
...loading 'scripts/gothic_wall.shader'
...loading 'scripts/hell.shader'
...loading 'scripts/liquid.shader'
...loading 'scripts/menu.shader'
...loading 'scripts/models.shader'
...loading 'scripts/organics.shader'
...loading 'scripts/sfx.shader'
...loading 'scripts/shrine.shader'
...loading 'scripts/skin.shader'
...loading 'scripts/sky.shader'
...loading 'scripts/test.shader'
----- finished R_Init -----
Loading vm file vm/ui.qvm.
VM file ui compiled to 902363 bytes of code
4 arenas parsed
6 bots parsed
Scanning for servers on the local network...
----- CL_Shutdown -----
RE_Shutdown( 1 )
Shutting down OpenGL subsystem
...wglMakeCurrent( NULL, NULL ): success
...deleting GL context: success
...releasing DC: success
...destroying window
...resetting display
...shutting down QGL
...unloading OpenGL DLL
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Hitch warning: 937 msec frame time
------ Server Initialization ------
Server: Q3DM17
Loading vm file vm/qagame.qvm.
VM file qagame compiled to 1406264 bytes of code
------- Game Initialization -------
gamename: baseq3
gamedate: Nov 29 1999
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InitGame: \gamename\baseq3\sv_privateClients\0\mapname\Q3DM17\protocol\43\g_gametype\0\version\Q3 1.11 win-x86 Nov 29 1999\g_maxGameClients\0\capturelimit\0\sv_maxclients\8\timelimit\0\fraglimit\50\dmflags\0\sv_floodProtect\1\sv_maxRate\0\sv_hostname\PF fraggers ******
0 teams with 0 entities
16 items registered
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------- BotLib Initialization -------
loaded weapons.c
loaded items.c
loaded syn.c
loaded rnd.c
loaded match.c
loaded rchat.c
------------ Map Loading ------------
trying to load maps/Q3DM17.aas
loaded maps/Q3DM17.aas
found 21 level items
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6 bots parsed
4 arenas parsed
AAS initialized.
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Resolving master3.idsoftware.com
master3.idsoftware.com resolved to 192.246.40.56:27950
Sending heartbeat to master3.idsoftware.com
Hitch warning: 1329 msec frame time
ClientConnect: 0
ClientUserinfoChanged: 0 n\imat\t\0\model\sarge\c1\7\hc\100\w\0\l\0
broadcast: print "imat connected\n"
Sending heartbeat to master3.idsoftware.com
broadcast: print "imat entered the game\n"
ClientBegin: 0

So I can log in under the IP 192.168.1.106, but when I've sent it to two differnt friends, it just says awaiting challenge... 1,2,3,4 and so on....
I know for sure theres no problem with my firewall, and I don't have any other software thats quake like, this is pretty well my newbish question, but I would apprecaiate it greatly if someone could help me. I don't really have much to offer, but I'll give anyone a gmail invitie? although you all seem very interney savy so I'm sure you already do. Anyway any help is greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
- Mat