Why do woman cheat?

Post by **-SKID-** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:45 pm

I know this is not the best place for this. But I felt I needed to vent it on here anyway. My fiance/girlfriend of 5 years just got busted by me last wednesday night for cheating on me. It has been going on since at least the beginning of December. We were supposed to be getting married in April. I will never be able to understand why she would do it. I cant imagine how long she was going to keep it going. Right up until the wedding day? She says she still loves me, but feels like she has missed out on a lot of her life. The partying/drinking part of her life. I dont drink, but she could have went out drinking all she wanted. But she never confronted me about any of it. I treated her like a princess, I bought everything for her. Even her Mustang wich she used to take this POS of a man out in, and now stinks of smoke since he smokes. I just pray that one day she feels the same pain Im feeling now, and realizes what she has thrown away. For all you guys out there in love. Its not about the sex, its the thought of never making love to her again that also rips at my heart. I know Ill get some great comments on here from that. Going out all the time partying, drinking, and listening to those freaks ICP can only be fun, and keep you happy for so long. At some point. You are going to want some one who loves and cares about you to settle down and spend the rest of your life with. I can see her, and her new quality man(who knew about us, and still pursed her) get wasted into the sunset, get pregnant, and then watch him dump her when it happens. As much as I want to see her hurting. I pray that it doesnt happen. Because i dont want to see her life get screwed up by some jackoff of a man.

So guys, any of you been cheated on after a long love filled relationship? If so, give me some words of advice from your situation. Also, no Im not here just asking for advice I have friends that are helping me through this. Im just curious how others handled it. Just be careful guys, woman can easily destroy a mans life in a flash.

Post by **-Replicant-** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:47 pm

sorry to hear about that man. I was going to write a long post about Taoism's teaching on being indifferent, but at the moment i'm sure its not what you need to hear. good luck with things, and just remember that its not your fault this happened

Post by **andyman** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:48 pm

Have you punched her yet? Now is a good time...

5 years is a long time, and that is pretty damn shitty of hre to do that. But don't worry, what goes around comes around

Post by **menkent** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:48 pm

hmm, maybe the other guy wasn't such a homo

Post by **DiscoDave** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:50 pm

Don't get me started on women mate.

I was down the pub last thursday with some friends of mine where I bumped into a friend of mine who I've known for a while, and I quite liked that lass.

We started talking and she said to me that she really likes me, so we had a giggle and went on the dance floor. We were dancing, flirting, snogging blah blah blah until she randomly turns around and says "I'll be right back". I decide to sit down with my mates until she returns. After a while I think to myself "Where has she gone?" So i scout out on her and what do I find? she's playing tongue hockey with another guy.

I know your situation is far far worse but think about it this way, would you of rather found out now? or in the future when you're married?

Hard as it may be you just have to move on, and the best I/You/We can hope is that we'll find the right lass in the end.

For some reason it seems a lot of women go for men who are complete bastards, and are somehow surprised when that guy cheats on her/hits her/betrays her etc. Its just another one of those weird facts, or its just women at my age.

You'll be alrite man

Post by **Denz** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:52 pm

Man that's fucked up. Sorry to hear that.

Post by **ScooterG** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:03 pm

Very sorry Skid...there is no easy way for you to get through this...maybe some Ben and Jerry's?

Please remember that not all women, or men for that matter, cheat.... Hope you feel better soon.

P.S. Did you have it out w/ her yet?

Post by **Kills On Site** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:06 pm

Shit dude, that really does suck. I don't know why she would do that, but I could never accept her saying that she still loved me if I were you.

Post by **Tsakali_** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:07 pm

nothing that can be said here will make you feel better.

You need to learn how to live for yourself, and approach relationships with a healthy amount of indiference. I know this is not your disposition but saddly enough your character can be the right recipe for getting screwed over and over again, you NEED to make changes in your aproach to such matters....again you need to live for yourself.

It's hard to shallow I know cause I am very much like you. I have no problem commiting to something I believe in, but unfortunately most females I know are out to live life to the fullest no matter how confusing, slutty, sinister and immoral it might seem to a man.

For instance a few month back my 1.2 years girlfriend told me she didn't feel the same way about me so we broke up, I still loved her, and things have come to where we're back together again and going on with our plans of moving to another state. I know I will get screwed over but I'm trying to approach our relationship and my emotional attachment to her with a grain of salt.

Doing everything humanly possible for your girl is far from a good recipe to a successful relationship

Post by **Tsakali_** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:10 pm

Kills On Site wrote:Shit dude, that really does suck. I don't know why she would do that, but I could never accept her saying that she still loved me if I were you.

she still does love him, but might not be IN love with him.

"females 101"

Post by **Underpants?** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:10 pm

get it together man, you're a shitload better off than if you'd married the dumb

slut. Take advantage of your new freedom and learn the lesson--albeit a painful one.
Consider how much alimony, lawyer fees and other shit you just saved yourself.
Oh, and P.S. you really suck

"i dont want to see her life get screwed up "

it's obviously already there, you fucking tool

Post by **Denz** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:13 pm

Yeah really, perhaps you dodged a bullet. It's better to know now than find out later after the marriage.

Glad there were no kids involved. SO there really is a bright side to all of this.

Post by **Denz** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:14 pm

Oh and it's going to be hard to trust anyone again.... but hopefully you will find some sweet honey that will take care of you. Chin up bud, I have been there twice. I'm still looking for the next Ex-Denzii.

Post by **Nightshade** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:16 pm

Women cheat for the same reasons men do. Complete whoredom.

Post by **andyman** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:23 pm

DiscoDave wrote:Don't get me started on women mate.

I was down the pub last thursday with some friends of mine where I bumped into a friend of mine who I've known for a while, and I quite liked that lass.

We started talking and she said to me that she really likes me, so we had a giggle and went on the dance floor. We were dancing, flirting, snogging blah blah blah until she randomly turns around and says "I'll be right back". I decide to sit down with my mates until she returns. After a while I think to myself "Where has she gone?" So i scout out on her and what do I find? she's playing tongue hockey with another guy.

I know your situation is far far worse but think about it this way, would you of rather found out now? or in the future when you're married?

Hard as it may be you just have to move on, and the best I/You/We can hope is that we'll find the right lass in the end.

For some reason it seems a lot of women go for men who are complete bastards, and are somehow surprised when that guy cheats on her/hits her/betrays her etc. Its just another one of those weird facts, or its just women at my age.

You'll be alrite man

It's obvious she wanted you to come and take her away

Post by **equivo** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:24 pm

-SKID- wrote:I treated her like a princess, I bought everything for her. Even her Mustang wich she used to take this POS of a man out in...

That's your mistake buddy. Treat your girl like a queen and she'll treat you like a queen would her servants, i.e. not give a fuck about you.

I know of so many instances where girls are with some tool who panders to their every whim, meanwhile they're out fucking the local drug dealer or pisshead. They go for the bastards simply because they are more masculine, and nothing turns a girl on more.

In your next relationship, be a man.. be in control. Don't buy shit or do nice things unless the bitch deserves it, or she'll take it all for granted.

Make her earn your respect.

Post by **Tsakali_** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:26 pm

andyman wrote:
It's obvious she wanted you to come and take her away

yup and that would be just the kind of illogical action that would make her fall for him

Post by **andyman** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:28 pm

Tsakali_ wrote:
andyman wrote:
It's obvious she wanted you to come and take her away
yup and that would be just the kind of illogical action that would make her fall for him

just like in back to the future

Post by **I cant spell u** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:31 pm

Heed my words, it is a silly fish that falls for the same bait twice.

Post by **Jackal** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:31 pm

Girls are fucking psycho is a rule everybody needs to learn.
Having said that, wtf is with the line "I bought her anything she wanted."

Instead of buying her shit (which I'm sure she enjoyed) why didn't you try doing some of the things she thought she was missing out on? You said you don't drink? Well take her out on the town and try it. If you can't drink then take her out period.

Post by **DiscoDave** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:33 pm

andyman wrote:
DiscoDave wrote:Don't get me started on women mate.

I was down the pub last thursday with some friends of mine where I bumped into a friend of mine who I've known for a while, and I quite liked that lass.

We started talking and she said to me that she really likes me, so we had a giggle and went on the dance floor. We were dancing, flirting, snogging blah blah blah until she randomly turns around and says "I'll be right back". I decide to sit down with my mates until she returns. After a while I think to myself "Where has she gone?" So i scout out on her and what do I find? she's playing tongue hockey with another guy.

I know your situation is far far worse but think about it this way, would you of rather found out now? or in the future when you're married?

Hard as it may be you just have to move on, and the best I/You/We can hope is that we'll find the right lass in the end.

For some reason it seems a lot of women go for men who are complete bastards, and are somehow surprised when that guy cheats on her/hits her/betrays her etc. Its just another one of those weird facts, or its just women at my age.

You'll be alrite man
It's obvious she wanted you to come and take her away

Nah by that point she was quite drunk and the morning after she was really upset about it and such =\

Post by **andyman** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:36 pm

Jackal wrote:Girls are fucking psycho is a rule everybody needs to learn.
Having said that, wtf is with the line "I bought her anything she wanted."

Instead of buying her shit (which I'm sure she enjoyed) why didn't you try doing some of the things she thought she was missing out on? You said you don't drink? Well take her out on the town and try it. If you can't drink then take her out period.

yeah.. buy her a drink! seems logical

Post by **MKJ** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:37 pm

words of advice? there are none. the most frustrating part of the experience (for me that is) was the idea that i couldnt do anything about it. and itll eat you up inside. i can post some blabla about how you must keep your chin up and you will find someone better et al, but that wont help you deal with the pain.
and to be honest, i dont tihnk anything will help you deal with it. you can get all the distraction you want from friends, going out, plummet yourself into your work - but the moment you go to bed at night it will come back and haunt you. it will hurt, and you will try to find an answer to the unanswerable: "why?".

now you got me down

Post by **Tsakali_** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:40 pm

MKJ wrote:words of advice? there are none. the most frustrating part of the experience (for me that is) was the idea that i couldnt do anything about it. and itll eat you up inside. i can post some blabla about how you must keep your chin up and you will find someone better et al, but that wont help you deal with the pain.
and to be honest, i dont tihnk anything will help you deal with it. you can get all the distraction you want from friends, going out, plummet yourself into your work - but the moment you go to bed at night it will come back and haunt you. it will hurt, and you will try to find an answer to the unanswerable: "why?".

now you got me down

you must keep your chin up ,cheer up man and you will find someone better

Post by **vaporware** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:41 pm

its all about the upgrade.

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