Why do woman cheat?

Post by **Tsakali_** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:43 pm

I say the best medicine is to have lots of cheap sex , with lots of condoms, atleast that will take care of the self esteem issue which is probably the most pressing matter at this point

Post by **SOAPboy** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:44 pm

Tsakali_ wrote:
Kills On Site wrote:Shit dude, that really does suck. I don't know why she would do that, but I could never accept her saying that she still loved me if I were you.
she still does love him, but might not be IN love with him.

"females 101"

Winner

Post by **Tsakali_** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:44 pm

Memphis wrote:
TAKE SOME FUCKING DRUGS MAN

I'm gonna fucking have to now. Shit let's all just get wrecked o_O

I know, lets starts a NO-MAAM club

Post by **MKJ** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:50 pm

Tsakali_ wrote:
MKJ wrote:words of advice? there are none. the most frustrating part of the experience (for me that is) was the idea that i couldnt do anything about it. and itll eat you up inside. i can post some blabla about how you must keep your chin up and you will find someone better et al, but that wont help you deal with the pain.
and to be honest, i dont tihnk anything will help you deal with it. you can get all the distraction you want from friends, going out, plummet yourself into your work - but the moment you go to bed at night it will come back and haunt you. it will hurt, and you will try to find an answer to the unanswerable: "why?".

now you got me down

see there is still hope
you must keep your chin up ,cheer up man and you will find someone better

oh i have. this was years ago

Post by **R00k** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:50 pm

Jackal wrote:Girls are fucking psycho is a rule everybody needs to learn.
Having said that, wtf is with the line "I bought her anything she wanted."

Instead of buying her shit (which I'm sure she enjoyed) why didn't you try doing some of the things she thought she was missing out on? You said you don't drink? Well take her out on the town and try it. If you can't drink then take her out period.

Words to live by. If a girl loves you, it's not hard to make her happy, you just have to be willing to do some shit you wouldn't normally want to do.

I would also say you dodged a bullet in this case. If she'd been a more real person, she would have brought some of this stuff up a long time ago and you could've worked on it - unless you were unwilling to do that.

And to come full circle - girls are all mildly insane, to one degree or another.

Post by **R00k** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:51 pm

vaporware wrote:its all about the upgrade.

is this fucking magnetichead too?

Post by **dmmh** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:57 pm

dood, I know the feeling all to well
sadly 50% of all people cheat
not something you want to hear I know, but its the sad thruth

wish you strength and all

Post by **Tsakali_** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 11:00 pm

R00k wrote:
If she'd been a more real person, she would have brought some of this stuff up a long time ago and you could've worked on it

that's the only reason I'm giving mine another chance, atleast she does this, regardless of the fact that some requests are unrealistic atleast I am aware of them

Post by **R00k** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 11:06 pm

Memphis wrote:
R00k wrote: And to come full circle - girls are all mildly insane, to one degree or another.
And to make that circle an all new spangly polygonised spherically spherical bumpedmapped texture wrapped sphere, change the word 'girls' to 'people'

Everyone's insane to some degree I reckon :icon32:

Sure man, but not nearly the same way women are!

Post by **S@M** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 11:27 pm

Give youself time, cos nothing else helps, then make sure she does not come back and catch you when she tries to re-bound - its the only way you can keep any self respect.
Go find yourself for some time, learn to live fully with your own company and interests. You gotta completely let go of her, cheap ones and cheats try to come back when "they" need something - remember if that happens its because they have real feelings only for their own benefit, not yours

Post by **plained** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 11:28 pm

aw shit man srz to hear that skid y0

well lessons leaned i guess. doent let yourself get dulusionalized cause the signs were prolly there.

you got off easy, cause if fidelity is important to you, its good you found out now b4 its too late ey.

imo women doent cheat, dumb bithches cheat.

women on the other hand drop baggage first and doent involve anybody else , then follow thier passions, and that cant be begrudged , by me at least.

so yea shit man yiee

Post by **Turbanator** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 11:59 pm

i'll raise my hand to the "been cheated on" club. my first serious relationship ended that way, lasted about 2 years and caught her with a lil' help from HER friends. she'd done it to me out of revenge according to her... and i'll be honest, it hurt me for a long while. 3 months later i was completely over it and having the time of my life. 1st month is hard, next 2 are just annoying, end up thinking about things you wish you could stop thinking about. after that, i just got back to enjoying life. whilst i was in the relationship i spent a lot of time thinking "yea she's a nice girl, but man i really wish i could take a break from her and go do....." well, all those little things i wished i could do when i was with her, i got out of my system and did all in one summer. best summer of my life, felt very free.

but, i chatted to her about a year after the break up, and i'll tell you what i told her... her cheating on me was the best thing that happened to me. it makes you so much stronger and the experiences you've gained from having such a long relationship this time around means there's less faffing around next time. you focus on your priorites and know what you want and expect.

the last 5 yrs haven't been wasted, they've just been prepping you.

chin up, things'll work out for the best

Post by **Turbanator** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 12:02 am

ps: there's nothing wrong with a little revenge... it's only human

get back what's rightfully yours, and give yourself a little compensation for the last 3 months.

Post by **R00k** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 12:09 am

Memphis wrote:
R00k wrote:
Sure man, but not nearly the same way women are!
That would imply i'm not as crazy as some bird when I just put both a nerd and a politically correct reference in a single post in plain view of the internet

Take it back now! :E

please. this might need to stick in court one day

lol. Trust me man, you've got nothing on some of the crazy ass women I've met.

Post by **4days** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 12:41 am

dodged a bullet sounds right on the money.

might already be in this thread, but the one bit of advice there's not much chance of you listening to - is to stay away from her. keep it civil, but keep your distance. you'll mend faster, and it'll be better for her in the long run too.

Post by **S@M** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 12:46 am

Turbanator wrote:i'll raise my hand to the "been cheated on" club. my first serious relationship ended that way, lasted about 2 years and caught her with a lil' help from HER friends. she'd done it to me out of revenge according to her... and i'll be honest, it hurt me for a long while. 3 months later i was completely over it and having the time of my life. 1st month is hard, next 2 are just annoying, end up thinking about things you wish you could stop thinking about. after that, i just got back to enjoying life. whilst i was in the relationship i spent a lot of time thinking "yea she's a nice girl, but man i really wish i could take a break from her and go do....." well, all those little things i wished i could do when i was with her, i got out of my system and did all in one summer. best summer of my life, felt very free.

but, i chatted to her about a year after the break up, and i'll tell you what i told her... her cheating on me was the best thing that happened to me. it makes you so much stronger and the experiences you've gained from having such a long relationship this time around means there's less faffing around next time. you focus on your priorites and know what you want and expect.

the last 5 yrs haven't been wasted, they've just been prepping you.

chin up, things'll work out for the best

you and 4days can be my relationship advisers anytime, good advice. I did what you did after a long term rel bust up, and yeah, I had a great time, and really found out I was capable of putting so much in to life, and getting heaps out of it in return.

Post by **Dark Metal** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 12:48 am

Better to be the cheater than the cheatee.

Post by **HM-PuFFNSTuFF** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 12:50 am

Dark Metal wrote:Better to be the cheater than the cheatee.

which is why i fucked you up the butt

Post by **R00k** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 12:51 am

I haven't cheated on anybody since I was about 20 or 21.

If you're cheating you don't really have a relationship anyway, so why not go ahead and get out, and save yourself the trouble of lying?

Post by **Dark Metal** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 12:55 am

HM-PuFFNSTuFF wrote:
Dark Metal wrote:Better to be the cheater than the cheatee.
which is why i fucked you up the butt

Does it count that I didn't feel it?

Post by **Dark Metal** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 12:59 am

Well I can tell you that I didn't wake up. Then again he was the same way when I fucked his ass... But he woke up when he took my load on his face.

Post by **Kn0wFuRy** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 2:21 am

Memphis wrote:
R00k wrote: And to come full circle - girls are all mildly insane, to one degree or another.
And to make that circle an all new spangly polygonised spherically spherical bumpedmapped texture wrapped sphere, change the word 'girls' to 'people'

Everyone's insane to some degree I reckon :icon32:

:icon14: Yup, too true.

A lot of us have been cheated on and there are usually different reasons in each case, but a lot of the time it is just a matter of someone chasing something they are convinced they are missing. (whether they are or not)

We all get over it. And if we are very considerate/intelligent, we think twice, even three times before we decide to cheat.

Post by **raw** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 3:32 am

-SKID- wrote:yadda yadda yadda

Why do we need to breathe air? It's just the way it is.

Post by **JulesWinnfield** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 3:40 am

I cant spell u wrote:Heed my words, it is a silly fish that falls for the same bait twice.

Kick her ass to the curb.

I just got married so i know all the BS you've been doing getting ready for yours, but trust me, you don't want to marry this girl. She will cheat on you again, you will ultimately get divorced, and even though she's in the wrong, you will ultimately lose half of everything you owe due to our fucked up system. She's done it once, she's more than capable of doing it again. Just like everything in life, it's always easier the 2nd time around. Do you really want this?

And be less pansy in your next relationship.

Post by **Turbanator** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 4:21 am

on, and I have to agree and say you've dodged a MASSIVE bullet this time. imagine finding out a year from now when you were "happily married", the fight you woulda had would have ended your marriage, you'd end up with 1/2 of everything and basically be socially fucked cause divorcee is an arkward title to explain sometimes.

it's a blessing you found out.

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